Apparently, up to one in eight people is neurodiverse, and has a condition such as tourettes syndrome, ADHD, Autism or Bipolar . I don’t know about you, but this can really slow me down.
One of the big things in the world of Neurodiversity is Executive Functioning. What is Executive Functioning? This is the ability to self manage, such as “self-restraint, working memory, emotion control, focus, task initiation, planning/prioritization, organization, time management, defining and achieving goals, flexibility, observation and stress tolerance“(https://www.cio.com/article/2443637/executive-skills–how-to-improve-your-ability-to-focus.html). These are skills that are often picked up in childhood, either by intuition, being taught or copying peers or elders.
Personally, I really struggle with waking up at a normal time, following routines and finding work. It can really suck the joy out of life when you spend most of your time watching Netflix, eating junk food, sleeping and avoiding adult responsibilities. Watching so much tv is basically just living through other people, instead of having your own adventures. I try to organise myself and get on top of my life by making routines, to do lists and bucket lists, but it makes me dread doing the things on the list. I bet if I wrote “eat chocolate” on one of the lists, I would avoid doing it. I am a strange girl. This is something repulsive about lists. That being said, sometimes I really successful with lists. It depends on my mood and how many days in I am. I can usually keep a to do list for three or four days then I either get sick of following it, or I forget to make another one up. If all I do was have a goal to make a to do list for each day, I would probably be a much more successful person.
Another crazy thing about this, is that I consider myself someone of a perfectionist, so if I can’t complete a task to 100% completion I will avoid it completely, or if it doesn’t meet my high standards or looks too hard, I will give up before I start. Like this one time I
Another crazy thing about me, is that I consider myself someone of a perfectionist. I am an expert at giving up before I start if something looks too difficult for me or I know it won’t meet my high standards. I also avoid starting something that I know I can’t finish. The other weird thing? I am a big procrastinator, so if I have an assignment due, instead of completing it to a high standard and making an early start on it, I will wait until I only just have enough time to finish it. This was a big problem in school, because my grade point average was not achieved, and if I did finish an assignment, I would mostly only get achieved. I think I only got three or four merits, and like two excellences. I did mange to get University Entrance though.
An example of my ridiculous expectations and personal standards is the humble gingerbread house. One year I decided I wanted to make one… rather than print of a template like a “normal” person and give it a whack, I looked at many examples of houses online and decided it would be too difficult for the likes of me. Now, I am thinking that I would do well to make a few houses per year so I can improve on my first attempt and create something I am proud of.
Anyway, I hope that explains some of the craziness that surrounds my life. My Bipolar gives me some crazy mood swings when I’m not medicated, my ADD makes me daydream, zone out and put things off, and my Autism makes me struggle to understand how the regular folk think and function. This world is not equipped for Neurotypical people, and I think the Education system needs to be tipped on it’s head to accommodate people like me. I went through school thinking that I was just there to be the class clown and to be enrolled in a babysitting service, rather than to learn, develop life skills and prepare for work. I can’t have been the only one confused like that. Being Neurodiverse is definitely a gift, but it is a gift that can make life a lot more difficult if you don’t know how to live and thrive with it. This blog will be an attempt to help lift people like me out of stagnation in life by providing helpful tips and suggestions and showing experiments in self improvement in my own life. It will also feature things like my attempts at a bucket list and anything I can think of that relates to ADHD, Bipolar or Autism. I may also interview people on the spectrum to see how they are doing in life. And post the occasional video.